Christian Premarital Counseling Builds Successful Marriages

With the strength of God, individuals about themselves and are encouraged to overcome weakness. Although marriage can be very stressful, it can be equally rewarding as God teaches life lessons. Meeting the person God has meant for you is a life-changing experience.

If you are thinking about marriage it is crucial to learn to communicate with your partner, set goals,and boundaries for the relationship and discuss concerns to strengthen the bond that you share. This will help you and your partner survive the rough times. You owe it to yourself and your future partner to work towards eternal health and happiness.

Statistically speaking, divorce rates peak in the first couple years of marriage. Premarital Christian counseling has been proven to lower this divorce rate and increase overall marital satisfaction.

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Understanding Premarital Christian Counseling

Our society today does not perpetuate marriage as God intended. Today’s society ignores the religious aspects of life which builds a strong foundation on which marriage is based. Individuals often take marriage lightly and do not understand the seriousness of the commitment. This commitment is not only something you make with your spouse but before God.

Premarital Christian counseling helps couples focus on what it means to be married and what those commitments entail. This gives couples a head start towards a happy, fulfilling life. Often, premarital couples are focused on wedding planning and they ignore the necessary components for a healthy marriage. After the honeymoon phase passes, couples begin to run into trouble, because they are ill-equipped to deal with marital problems.

Christian premarital counseling can help young couples develop realistic standards for their marriage and offer help for resolving conflicts in the future. Through Christian counseling, partners can discuss important concerns they have and share how they feel in the relationship. This helps foster a lifelong marriage and a strong relationship with Christ.

The Purpose of Counseling

The purpose of premarital Christian counseling is to assist you and your partner to prepare for the commitments of marriage and resolve common conflicts that arise during married life. During this program, your counselor will instruct you and your partner on goal setting and resolving conflict.

Common goals for premarital Christian counseling include:

  • Anticipating future conflicts
  • Identifying strengths and areas of growth that each partner can work on while married
  • Learning to resolve conflict successfully
  • Forming effective communication skills

Premarital Christian counseling helps with:

  • Managing sexual expectations
  • Decision making
  • Issues with extended family
  • Parenting and children
  • Dynamics of relationship roles
  • Financial matters
  • Effectively managing anger
  • Development of faith as a couple

The compassionate and diverse counselors at Santa Monica Christian Counseling can help you through unbiased mediation and can provide a fresh perspective and guidance for a successful marriage.

Besides helping couples improve communication with one another, setting goals for your marriage, and developing skills for conflict-resolution, premarital Christian counseling also helps you to bring your own personal life, including opinions, values, and history, to the relationship. Often, individuals will enter marriages with the expectation of gaining financial, social, sexual, or emotional satisfaction; however, they do not realize that this can be a very long process. After getting married, you may find that expectation and reality do not align. Therefore, it is prudent to discuss your differences and the goals for your marriage ahead of time. This helps both partners better understand each other’s needs and wants.

Premarital Christian counseling can help you and your fiance with a foundation built on Christ. This way, you can establish a strong and healthy relationship before the stress of marriage.

The counselors at Santa Monica Christian Counseling are dedicated to helping you and your fiancé grow together in your relationship, but more importantly, in faith.

Benefits of a Christian Approach

Similar to other non-religious counseling services, Santa Monica Christian Counseling offers evidence-based counseling services. The counselors at Santa Monica Christian Counseling are experts in complex relationship dynamics and are trained to offer guidance from the Christian perspective. This helps provide you with a well-rounded healing process that incorporates the mind, body, and spirit.

Spiritual quarrels have very powerful effects on emotional and psychological states, and both require time to heal. Premarital Christian counseling helps each individual foster a better understanding and appreciation for their partner and how they express their Christianity. This is an integral step in understanding your partner’s needs.

The counselors at Santa Monica Christian Counseling will encourage you to engage in discussions about what faith means and how it will play a role in the future relationship. Although we take a Christian approach to counseling, we encourage individuals of all faiths to seek help to build a healthy marriage.

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Approaches to premarital Christian counseling differs from one counselor to another; however, each counselor works with what is most beneficial to the client’s situation. Counselors often recommend specific premarital programs, but others will make use of personal inventories and timed sessions. Although different, both are effective methods for helping partners reach a more harmonious relationship.

Common types of counseling for couples before marriage include:

  • Psychodynamic counseling – addresses issues regarding each family of origin and how these problems affect your relationship in the present
  • Cognitive behavioral counseling – helps resolve communication issues and unhealthy behavioral patterns
  • Situation-focused therapy – assists couples in establishing goals and provides options to overcome future problems
  • Emotionally-focused therapy – helps couples with managing stress and negative emotional responses

Counseling for Blended Families

It can feel like a God-send to finally find new love and companionship after struggling through unsuccessful relationships. Although this can be very exciting, there are often many complications that new couples overlook. Often, individuals enter into a marriage thinking they have learned all that they can from mistakes in the past. However, this is a misconception. For example, someone who has parented children of their own may think they can successfully be a stepparent.

Misguided assumptions like these can often lead to the inability to overcome the new stresses of being a stepparent; however, premarital Christian counseling can help anyone prepare for the future ahead. You can beat the statistical 67% divorce rate for second marriages.

The counselors at Santa Monica Christian Counseling can help you:

  • Create realistic expectations and goals for your family
  • Understand what caused previous relationship stress
  • Break down destructive patterns
  • Better understand family dynamics in a blended family
  • Improve communication among partners
  • Learn conflict-resolution skills
  • Discuss managing past relationships and children
  • Overcome emotional hurt from unsuccessful relationships
  • Talk about parenting with biological and step children

Building a happy marriage which includes loving relationships with stepchildren is definitely possible with premarital Christian counseling. Balancing everything in a blended family can be difficult, but counseling can help couples prepare for possible roadblocks.

Frequently Asked Questions

Premarital Christian counseling is one of the best things to participate in to ensure the longevity of a marriage. If you and your partner have any questions about our services, we have attentive staff ready to help put your mind at ease. Common questions about premarital Christian counseling are:

Even if you and your partner are not experiencing any current major issues, it is still beneficial to attend counseling to make sure that you can maintain a satisfying relationship. Premarital Christian counseling can help any couple who are considering marriage.

No, you do not have to be Christian to attend our counseling services. We help premarital couples from all backgrounds. We provide professional services to help you and your partner build a healthy, nurturing marriage.

While seeking premarital Christian counseling, make sure to seek out an experienced marriage and family therapist. Marriage and family therapists understand the complex dynamics of relationships and can help you work through unresolved issues with your spouse-to-be.

For more information about obtaining a Christian counseling, browse profiles to find the perfect Christian counselor for you and your partner. Feel free to contact us if you have any questions about choosing the right counselor.

In many cases, insurance providers will cover the cost of premarital Christian counseling, but this depends on a variety of factors. The rates of the counselors at Santa Monica Christian counseling depend on the level of experience and qualifications.

While some counselors offer sliding-scale payment options, others will have different options. For an accurate estimate of how much premarital counseling will cost, contact your insurance provider or your Christian counselor for more information.

The length of time required for counseling depends on the needs of the couple and the complexity of the issues they are working through. Premarital Christian counseling can last a couple of sessions or a few months.

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