Christian Couples Counseling Offers a New Start For Relationships

If you’ve been struggling with relationship problems and are feeling completely overwhelmed, you may be thinking about just ending things with your spouse. But after all that you’ve been through together, you both owe it to yourselves to give it one more shot. Christian couples counseling offers support and relationship guidance for both married couples and unmarried committed relationships. We’re here to help with any challenges you may be facing.

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What is Christian Couples Counseling?

Christian couples counseling at Santa Monica Christian Counseling provides you and your spouse a safe and understanding place to share any concerns and struggles you’re having in your relationship. We have a comprehensive approach that focuses on both the individual needs and feelings of each spouse, but also the relationship as a whole. We work on individual challenges and areas of weakness to strengthen the relationship for both spouses. God intended for us to have deep and meaningful connections with the people around us, but our personal desires and external temptations can often get in the way of our relationship with Christ. We believe that by relying on faith and using the invaluable teachings of Jesus as our guide, you can rebuild your relationship to reflect God’s purpose of love, empathy, and commitment to one another.

Signs You May Need Couples Counseling

It can be difficult to tell when you need counseling to repair a relationship. Many couples try to fix things on their own for years before giving counseling a try, and may even end the relationship without trying counseling that could have potentially fixed it. If you recognize any of the following signs in your relationship, consider trying Santa Monica Christian Counseling to get compassionate help and guidance:

Ineffective communication: This is one of the most common relationship problems couples experience and it’s also one of the most difficult to resolve. Many people find that they occasionally have conversations with their spouse that leave them in a negative mood. You might feel like your spouse is not listening, you might feel angry or sad, or you might back off from the conversation altogether because it’s not going well. Whether you’re not communicating at all or you’re communicating in a hostile way, this issue can cause deeper problems in a relationship.

Recurring conflict: When you find yourselves having the same fights over and over again, it’s very difficult to keep your relationship on track. Christian couples counseling provides the outside eye and ear you need to solve your long-term, unresolved conflicts in a healthy, supportive manner. If you feel like you just keep hitting a wall in your relationship, you may need to look at things from a different perspective to make the change you both need.

Infidelity: Many people believe that relationships can’t recover from an affair, but this isn’t true. It’s vital, however, that the couple seek help shortly after the problem has happened to repair the relationship. It’s also important to seek help if you’re considering an affair – this can be just as detrimental and lead to greater intimacy issues.

Hurtful behavior: Couples who are on the rocks often express their emotions in a negative, unhealthy way, without realizing how hurtful and damaging this can be. These behaviors can be easily changed through awareness and effort, but having the outside eye of a Christian couples counselor may be what you need to make that change. If you feel like you or your spouse is constantly short-tempered or insults the other, you may have this challenge in your relationship.

Lost emotional connection: Many people who come to Christian couples counseling talk about feeling distant from their spouse, like the emotional connection they once had isn’t there anymore. Not only does this feel very painful in many cases, but it can also lead to a lack of healthy communication and even to abusive behavior or infidelity. If you feel like your spouse never has time for you or is avoiding you, you may be struggling with this issue.

Relationship challenges like these can be draining and leave you feeling negative and hopeless. If you’re considering splitting up, we strongly encourage you to give Christian couples counseling a try before you do. We are blessed to have witnessed the power of Christ firsthand as He brings couples back together, even from the darkest places. Know that no matter how severe your troubles may seem, there is a chance for you and we’re here to help at Santa Monica Christian Counseling.

A Fresh Start With Christian Couples Counseling

Many people worry that couples counseling won’t be effective or will exacerbate their problems. However, many studies have shown that couples counseling is effective in a large percentage of cases. It’s very important to find a qualified counselor that you both feel comfortable with. Here at Santa Monica Christian Counseling, we have a full staff of highly trained and compassionate counselors that provide high success rates to their clients.

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What are the benefits of couples counseling?

There are many benefits to trying Christian couples counseling to improve your relationship. Effective couples counseling will provide you with the outside support you need to fix long-term problems in your relationship. Some of the benefits of Christian couples counseling include:

A changed perspective. It can be very difficult to see your relationship from a fair, unbiased perspective. Many people find it easier to blame their spouse when their relationship starts to go south, but the counselors at Santa Monica Christian Counseling can show you how to look at your relationship and your problems objectively without placing blame. You’ll have a safe place to share your personal relationship story, and you’ll learn how to see things from your spouse’s perspective.

Better communication. A breakdown in communication is incredibly common in struggling relationships. Through counseling, you will learn how to communicate without resulting in negative or hurtful words, and how to effectively share your emotions and perspective with your spouse. You’ll also learn how to listen effectively.

Changing harmful habits. At Santa Monica Christian Counseling, we work to identify behavior that causes breakdowns in the relationship and change those habits. You’ll learn to identify destructive behaviors and strategies to help you correct them with healthier habits.

Renew emotional connection. A common reason for seeking Christian couples counseling is feeling like there’s a disconnect between spouses. In counseling, you’ll identify what causes this disconnect and take steps to rebuild a healthy connection between the two of you. This often means working through painful experiences from the past or learning to communicate your emotions in a different way.

Acknowledge and build on strengths. Effective Christian couples counseling doesn’t just focus on weaknesses, it focuses on strengths as well. Through counseling, you’ll identify and celebrate your strengths, and learn how you can use them to build a healthier, more effective relationship.

Counselors at Santa Monica Christian Counseling use a variety of different counseling techniques to help couples with their personal struggles. Whatever you’re going through, we’re here to help and provide you the support and help you need through Christ.

What You Can Expect in Christian Couples Counseling

Many people find the idea of couples counseling overwhelming at first, and whether you or your spouse are feeling this way, know that you’re not alone. Knowing what you can expect when you go to Christian couples counseling can make the process easier and less intimidating.

Christian Couples Counseling Methods and Techniques

There are several different Christian counseling techniques, and your Christian counselor will identify which method will be most effective depending on the personal needs of your relationship. Here are some of the most common techniques used in Christian counseling:

Gottman Method: In this method, you and your spouse will create love maps that allow you to express your experiences and better understand that of your spouse. You’ll develop a stronger, more empathetic connection, and learn how to manage your conflicts in a healthy way.

Emotionally-Focused Couples Therapy: This strategy is particularly helpful for solving short-term problems, and it has three steps. The first step is to correct the actions and reactions that are emotionally damaging, and the second step is to rebuild a strong connection with each other. Once the connection has been re-established, the final step is to develop healthy interactions with each other.

Psychodynamic Approach: For some people, negative behavior in adulthood can actually be caused by unconscious reactions to events from the past. This strategy brings those causes to light and attempts to fix them.

Crucible Approach Couples Counseling: This approach focuses on building sexual intimacy, as well as encouraging personal growth. With this method, you’ll identify barriers to intimacy and find unique solutions that you can continue to rely on throughout your relationship.

Narrative Therapy: This method has couples each describe their issues in a narrative format. This allows you to be objective with your descriptions and see things from a new perspective. Your counselor will then help you rewrite your narrative in a healthy way. This method is very effective for finding forgiveness from and empathy for your spouse.

Why Choose Santa Monica Christian Counseling?

You have many options when it comes to choosing a Christian counseling provider, but we offer unique benefits and services for couples that really work. Here’s why you should choose us:

Faith-based counseling: We have built a practice of relying on our faith in God’s word and the power of Christ, and we encourage you to integrate and rely on your Christian values in counseling as you seek guidance and support. Counselors at Santa Monica Christian Counseling will provide you with the tools you need to walk with God as a couple.
Experienced staff: The counselors at Santa Monica Christian Counseling have years of experience and extensive education in the field of marriage and family therapy with a Christian perspective. You can trust us to find the right method to help you solve your relationship issues.
Free trial session: Our first session is always free, so you can determine if we’re the right Christian counselors for you before you commit.

Before you call it quits, give your relationship one more try. Santa Monica Christian Counseling is a safe and supportive place where you and your spouse can express your feelings without judgment. We want to help you find a new beginning and move forward in a way that’s healthy for both of you.

Frequently Asked Questions About Christian Couples Counseling

Is Christian counseling for couples effective?

There are many studies that have researched the efficacy of couples counseling, and they have determined that for a large percentage of couples, counseling does help repair their marriage or their relationship. The numbers vary, but some studies show percentages as high as 70 to 90 percent of couples reporting positive change after couples counseling.

Does insurance cover Christian couples counseling?

Santa Monica Christian Counseling works with several different insurance providers to cover the cost of your sessions. You will need to contact your insurance provider for information on your specific plan and what it covers. If you have any questions or need more assistance from us, please don’t hesitate to call or email.

What do I do if my spouse doesn’t want to go to counseling?

This is a very common challenge that many couples face. If they absolutely refuse to give it a try, we also offer individual Christian counseling.

How do I find the best Christian counselor for me?

It’s important that you find a counselor that you trust and feel comfortable with. We have many counselors on staff with different backgrounds and fields of expertise. Take a look at the counselor profile pages to find out more.