Does Your Spouse Have Anger Problems? Find Support Here

The door slams for the hundredth time. Your husband is angry again over something that you feel is small, but he’s blown it out of proportion. You hear him utter something under his breath after his fist hits the bedroom wall. He has anger problems.

Anger problems can manifest in men and women. In some types of anger, the individual reaches a boiling point quickly over small things and ignites like a firework (Intermittent Explosive Disorder). In others, they keep their anger outbursts to a minimum, preferring to use their sarcastic words to cut like a knife, and “forgetting” things that are important to you.

Do any of these scenarios sound familiar? Does your spouse have anger problems?

Signs Your Spouse Has Anger Problems

Living with someone with anger problems is not easy. You may find yourself walking on eggshells, afraid to trigger a tantrum or outburst. Whether your spouse blows up with anger or bottles up and allows it to come out in other ways, anger problems will cause trauma for you and your family.

Speak to a Christian counselor right away if your spouse displays the following signs of anger problems.

They get angry over small things

Someone with anger problems can get disproportionately upset about things that most people may simply be inconvenienced by. For example, if out of ketchup, most people will either groan about it and eat a hot dog without ketchup or run out to the store for another bottle. Someone with anger issues may scream and blame everyone around for using the ketchup and not buying more. They may slam cabinet doors and throw their hot dog in the trash.

An individual with anger problems may rehash old discussions and get angry repeatedly about the same thing. They may throw your past mistakes back at you to shift blame and feel like the victim. Speak to a counselor if you dread when your spouse is home because you are unsure what will trigger another outburst.

They break objects and slam doors

Breaking objects, punching walls, and slamming doors are behaviors often seen with anger problems. Usually, what is broken does not belong to the one with anger issues. This is an expression of anger, although it is not productive, and only serves to scare others in the home.

Breaking, hitting, and slamming are physical behaviors meant to intimidate. Some of this behavior may stem from childhood if this is how their parents argued. However, as adults, they are responsible for changing that generational behavior and learning how to communicate in a marriage.

They hurt you or others

If your spouse hurts you or other people physically, emotionally, or mentally with physical or verbal abuse, seek help immediately. This behavior will not change on its own without professional help. A person can change only by hiring a medical professional to work through anger problems while also allowing the Holy Spirit to change them into a new creature.

It is not your or your children’s job to change a spouse and “fix” their anger issues. You must get to safety and allow others to help you.

Christian anger management counseling in Santa Monica, California

Anger problems, if left untreated, can lead to physical, emotional, and mental abuse. Contact our office today at Santa Monica Christian Counseling to connect with a Christian counselor in Santa Monica, California. We offer individual and couples counseling to help. Don’t wait. Get started today.