A Woman’s Guide to Healing After a Breakup: 7 Practical Tips

Couples break up every day, but you don’t understand the heartache until it happens to you. When you invest time, emotions, and dreams into another person, parting ways is painful. This pain equates to a great loss and requires time to heal. Finding new life after a breakup is possible as long as you allow yourself the time to grieve and heal. It will require deliberate steps and perhaps professional help, but life can be joyful again. It is important to give yourself grace in the process.

Seven Tips to Heal After a Breakup

Working through the complex emotions of a breakup can actually be an opportunity to rebuild your life if you change your perspective about it. It still takes work to facilitate healing, but putting your needs first is critical after parting ways with someone you loved. Many women spend their lives caring for their husbands and families, leaving little time for themselves.

To promote healing, you can view this process as a new beginning. There are several things you can do to begin the journey.

Declutter your surroundings

It is time to declutter your home and remove anything that reminds you of the hurt from the relationship. Remove what doesn’t bring you joy. Take this is small steps if it seems overwhelming. Schedule fifteen minutes a day to work on one area of your home.

Choose an item and decide whether it stays or goes into a donation bag or the trash. When your donation bag is full, take it immediately to a donation drop-off box or thrift store. As your home becomes lighter, you will feel lighter, as if you shed a burden.

Limit contact

Limit contact with your former partner if possible. If you share children, this may not be possible. If that is the case, set boundaries where communication is concerned. Perhaps it would be better to just text or email rather than talk over the phone or in person. If the relationship was abusive, you may need a legal mediator to coordinate visits. Give yourself some space by unfollowing your ex’s social media, at least until you feel you are in a better place emotionally.

Try something new

You may have forgotten about activities you enjoyed or wanted to try before you were coupled up. Often, in toxic relationships, the abuser is controlling and jealous. They will not allow their significant other to participate in hobbies outside of their influence.

Now is the time to rediscover these activities or try something new. Want to learn a foreign language or how to do Zumba? Give yourself six months of consistent practice to experience confidence and see results.

Become financially educated

Codependency is a tough cycle to break, and you may need counseling to help you through it. If you have not already, take control of your finances. Learning to manage on your own can be scary, but you can do hard things. Make learning about budgeting and finances a priority. You will never feel entirely secure if you leave your finances in the air. Educate yourself on savings accounts, investments, and passive income.

Walk every day

Walking consistently boosts your mood and improves your physical and mental health. You should aim to do it every day, once in the morning and again in the evening after dinner. Walking outdoors is best for a good dose of Vitamin D, but try streaming walking videos at home in a pinch.

Do small tasks that feel luxurious

Even the tightest budget can feel like a spa or luxury resort if you get creative. Light a scented candle and soak in the tub, sip your favorite drink while you read or listen to music, or give yourself a manicure and pedicure. Choose activities that make you feel like a million and boost your self-esteem.

Create special nights

Starting life again on your own or with children can make money tight, so create special nights for you and your children to look forward to each week. For example, Friday nights could be homemade pizza and movie night. Saturday nights could be game night. Sundays could consist of church, family dinner, reading, and relaxing. Create a consistent routine, even if you live alone.

Emotional and Mental Help

Getting over a breakup isn’t easy and requires time, patience, and grace. You may have experienced trauma, abuse, or emotional wounds from your husband or boyfriend. Processing these emotions can leave you feeling drained, anxious, and depressed.

If you feel you need a counselor’s help, contact our office today to schedule a session with a Christian counselor to discuss your situation and mental health. We will schedule an appointment with a therapist from our practice who will walk with you every step of the healing process.